(Texas sky through the trees)
I hope that you are the sort of person who paves their own way. I hope you are the sort of person who pioneers new ideas. I hope you are the sort of person who is not afraid to make your own map and go your own way. But whether you are that sort of person already, or if you wish to be that sort of person, or if you are even the sort of person who simply makes every effort toward growth and personal health, I have advice for you: find your people.
I consider myself something of a trailblazer; or at least, most of my decisions lean toward the unconventional. When you are this sort of person, it is easy to find yourself alone, questioning the wisdom of your own decisions. Because you have left the road more traveled, your hike into destiny can at times feel like a wander in the desert.
Thinking for yourself can take you to unforeseen conclusions – conclusions those around you may never reach. That’s okay – more than okay, actually. However, there is a big difference between being your own tribe and going it alone. That difference is in finding your people.
I don’t know anyone else who thought college was a bad idea, who dedicated themselves instead to writing and learning their practice through their practice, who bet everything on their writing, and who then decided to become a nomadic backpacker. But I don’t feel lonely. Not by a long shot.
I decided a long time ago to find my people. Who are my people? Other people who have made decisions similar to mine: an artist who skipped college in order to learn their practice through their practice; an entrepreneur who bet everything on their own talent and ingenuity; a writer who won’t sell out no matter what, and who combines entrepreneurial skill with writing talent. We may not have everything in common, but their challenges and victories help spur me on in my own.
I have also found that it is extremely beneficial to find strangers who have things in common with you. Connecting with people, even people whose stories you read or hear but never speak to, is extremely encouraging and relieving on the days when your current position feels like a wilderness instead of a grand adventure.
Recently, I came across a commencement speech given by Neil Gaiman that not only had great advice but also encouraged me personally in my life decisions and personal progress. You see, Neil and I have made many similar decisions, only he is now a famous author and I am still just beginning. Neil Gaiman is one of my people.
Side note: I highly recommend you give it a listen (click here!), as it is engaging, encouraging, and insightful.
Have you found your people?